It's kind of funny that I had one of my biggest lightbulb moments of the year at my son's 5th grade open house in his math class. His teacher was talking about how he wants his students to become resilient when they receive feedback about their tests or homework. By resilient, he went on to explain, he wanted them to learn to take constructive input without taking it personally.
Synonymous in my mind with the word tough, I had always thought of myself as a resilient person. I was the youngest of six and survived lots of teasing and I had lived in New York City where I worked for Isaac Mizrahi. Older siblings and the fashion world are training grounds for resilience as I defined it. But if I went by my son's poetic math teacher's definition of the word, I had some work to do.
Curious to know, I came home and looked it up and this is what I found.
- (of a substance or object) able to recoil or spring back into shape after bending, stretching, or being compressed.
- (of a person or animal) able to withstand or recover quickly from difficult conditions."the fish are resilient to most infections"
It seems Mr. Poetic Math Teacher was correct. When someone gives us feedback or challenges our opinions, it stretches us beyond where we are often comfortable. But the test of our resiliency lies in how quickly we bounce back to ourselves. The sooner we can return to who we are, the less our attitudes are impacted by outside situations.
Bee Resilient.. a new word on my attitude vocabulary list (and not an easy one to spell)!
*Bitmojis are so fun - create your own look-alike in the iTunes app store. The Three Queen Bees each have one. Stay tuned for later blogs starring Lizzie & Merissa's Bitmoji.